Here’s how my wife, Carolyn, and I do it. First off, I wear long pants and we dress neatly but not expensively when clearing in. In many former British colonies, officials are insulted by shorts or bare feet. Second, particularly in Southeast Asia, we never lose face by getting angry. (“That which angers you, conquers you,” is the local belief.) Third, we’re patient. In the Philippines, they tell you to wait and wait and wait — and we wait as obnoxiously and loudly as possible until they tell us cheapskates we can go. Fourth, we do our research.