"Today," he says to me, "is one of those days I just feel like selling the boat, buying a house, getting a job, and calling it done." He sighs, and I don't know what to do or say other than to put a hand on his shoulder and keep quiet. By nature, I'm Little Miss Fix It, but I've learned that some things you can't fix, and sometimes it's better to just clam up. This is a critical cruising skill. Learning to navigate and handle heavy weather? Key, of course. Sailhandling and provisioning? Yes, all very important. But knowing when to just back off and give your mate some time and space? That's a hard one, but maybe the most valuable of all.