In the old days, the whys and what fors really wouldn't have concerned me. But later, I quizzed Charlie so I understood what went wrong, how we could have handled the sheets on the winches differently, and so on. I'm not just a passenger any more. I own a boat and I'm part of a crew. I have responsibilities, and Charlie depends on me to be ready to respond quickly. And I'm hearing, "Hey, Kitty, you did that really well," a bit more often now.